“I have had a lover for several years. He is a married man.; has an adult son. His wife found out about our relationship. Doszło między nimi do poważnej rozmowy i w efekcie zaproponował mi, let us for a while, until the matter "dries up”, they stopped meeting. Minęły already 3 months, and he gives no sign of life. May I speak to him first? Does it fall out?”
In such situations, it is appropriate to do everything. However, it seems to me, that, in this particular case, the matter “drifted off” not necessarily yes, as if you wished it.