Sometimes we listen in disbelief to friends' stories about tantrums and aggression in their children. It happens, that we disapprove of watching mothers trying to calm their screaming children. We think then with relief: "Fortunately, that I have no such problems”. However, it is worth knowing, how to behave in a similar situation, because "robbery” anger can happen to any child, especially when it is in the so-called. age of defiance (from approx. 1,5 do 3 years). Toddlers' objection does not have to be manifested by throwing them on the floor, stomping. We often don't know, how to react even to the strong stubbornness of a little man. If you find yourself in a similar situation:
Don't look at childish aggression. Better get out of the room, stand aside. A child deprived of "faithful” the audience will surely calm down:
♦ try to accept the 'storm” as indifferent and don't show it, that it made a great impression on you. Don't get into an argument with the 'furious” baby, because your nervousness only encourages them to continue their quarrel.
♦ Do not withdraw your command and do not yield, because the little one will start to get angry forever, when he wants to achieve something. But, when the storm begins to subside, try to make it easier for the child to get out of the situation, for example by offering help in completing the task, to whom it was opposed, e.g.. in cleaning up toys.
♦ Avoid making strict demands for immediate execution of your command – rather, try to distract the child from the current activity first, having fun.
♦ Avoid dry commands and orders. As a rule, they arouse the will of opposition in the contradictory little boy. Occasional tantrums are generally nothing to worry about. However, if they do happen often – it is worth consulting a child psychologist, for example, at the nearest pedagogical and psychological counseling center. Perhaps, Your toddler has an extremely difficult character or you are mishandling with him.