“Seemingly, our marriage is compatible and functions without much screeching. We both work with my husband, we have similar professional positions. At home., unfortunately, partnership is out of the question. All housekeeping responsibilities, I am responsible for the care and upbringing of my children. My husband only joins me at my explicit command. He never does anything on his own initiative. I am getting tired and impatient with it. He constantly thinks, that I am taking maternity leave and living only with the problems of the house. I do not know, how to talk to him.”
Assuming, that the husband at work can show initiative, There may be many reasons for his passivity in family life. If they go back to the beginning of a marriage, it probably does not result from a change in his attitude towards you and the children. Quite often the period of maternity leave of a woman, prolonged parenting causes the spouses to consolidate their habits and expectations towards their partner, which are difficult to correct in the situation, when they both work. Perhaps the husband has assumed the role of a helper that is convenient for him, being aware, that the Lady is a resourceful person, obligatory, active. I think, that you should not react to his attitude by withdrawing from the conversation on sensitive topics, counting, that he himself should understand the reasons for your regret. In order to break the stereotypes of behavior, I propose two alternative techniques. The first would be to agree on the division of family responsibilities (detailing them in the form of specific activities on specific days). It would be advisable to comply with their implementation, but avoiding undue criticism (probably your husband will not immediately match your perfection). The second way would be for you to withdraw from your current work and duties, which would force the husband to be active. But it seems to me, that as a responsible and systematic person, you will choose the first technique.