“I'm in trouble with my son, who remains under the care of a specialist from the Mental Health Clinic. As suggested by the attending psychologist, our whole family should be covered by family psychotherapy. Asked, that I would pass on the recommendations to my husband and come to the next meeting with him and the children (I have no problems with my daughter). The husband does not see such a need. How could I convince him?”
Meetings with the whole family proposed by the psychologist are a form that is often used and works well in working with addicts., with neurotic disorders. They are based on a few theoretical assumptions that are obvious to psychologists. The family provides patterns of behavior, teaches specific attitudes. Emotional or behavioral disorders of one of its members are often a consequence of negative patterns or disturbances in mutual communication, relationships and dependencies between individuals. At the same time, they have a destructive effect on other relatives (feedback is at work here).
Without changes in interconnections and relationships, it is impossible to treat a person with the disorder, removing their causes and conducting prophylaxis to prevent their aggravation or recurrence.
Perhaps, the husband's reluctance does not result from the lack of faith in the rightness of the psychologist's decision.
They can be caused by anxiety about revealing themselves or realizing their own mistakes. Perhaps, so it is. But he must remember, that seeing them is necessary to solve the son's problems.
Disturbances in the sphere of emotions or behavior of one of the family members result from disturbances in its functioning.
This, in turn, has a destructive effect on other people in the immediate vicinity.
Only changes in family relationships will heal the situation.